Negotiating the Inner Peace Treaty
I’ve been reading Chelsea Wakefield’s book Negotiating the Inner Peace Treaty in anticipation of her workshop here in Jackson February 22 and 23, 2013. It is outstanding! Not only does Chelsea lead the reader step by step through the process of identifying and naming the dynamics moving and sometimes clashing within us, she also has a plan for helping the reader discover the prewritten scripts by which we live. Most of the time we are barely aware of any of this! Yet it is a wonderful way to begin to deal with inner conflict that often leads to moods, anxious, irritable or depressed. Chelsea makes the point that we are often living a script imposed on us by our parents, our religion, our culture – we accept, often without question, this is the way I’m supposed to be …otherwise….what? One of the Inner Characters Chelsea identifies is the Script Monitor – that part of us that watches and listens to every word and deed to make sure we are “playing our parts as written.” If we stray, the Script Monitor makes us feel wrong or anxious! This has been a revelation to me since I am a Thinking type on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. My Inner Cast of Characters communicates to me in feelings! Then I remember something I’ve heard recently – and cannot give proper attribution for it – but it is wise: Not everything that feels bad is bad and not everything that feels good is good. It may be that going off-script consciously under certain circumstances, though it feels Wrong is, in fact, the right thing to do!